Even though this is how you were raised, do you feel this is the right decision you are making? Apr 11, 2. Do you already have an account? You will need to register to be able to join in fellowship with Christians all over the world. How many of those people would have liked to have been childfree if they could? These have both been in the news lately. View Donations.
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Apr 11, 1. We all know it. Way too many people who shouldn't be parents, are parents. The list of selfish reasons goes on and on. The effect is the same though, bad parents; and way too many of them. I was just thinking, back in the days before reliable, methods of birth control; back when everyone had kids.
How many of those people would have liked to have been childfree if they could? Were children seen as blessing of marriage by everyone? Or were they just something they everyone had to do and get through? I mean, with so many different people back in the old days, becoming parents, do you think maybe all that diversity of parenting lowered the standards?
Do you think since everyone became a parent, that a bad parent wasn't so much a phenomenon? I mean, with so many bad parents in the world where every couple became parents, do you think maybe bad parenting became a form of normality? I mean, think about it. Why did farmers want kids? Because they're so cute? Try free labor. Taking care of the baby is mom's job, then when it's old enough the kid's only job is to help dad on the farm, but then the kid gets all these twisted ideas about school and college and going off to the city and leaving his pa no doubt put into his head by his mother, silly mother, what good is sending their kid off to college going to do her husband?
What about wealthy aristocrats? Without any children who are they to pass their wealth, their mini-empire, too? Without a child to carry on the family name, all that money would be given, after the couples' death, to the poor in a flee market and that would be unthinkable. Just think of all those grubby starving hands reaching for your china, if nothing else insults you surely that would.
Without a son to marry off to that Darby girl how are you going to get a hold of her father's land? But of course, if your son should fall in love with a pauper God forbid it'd be as insulting as if he'd fallen into bestiality and with the way the poor dress, maybe he has. What good are parties with out and innocent naive daughter to show off. Such a fine daughter could build up a strong alliance between you and the Wellington family, which would further your mini-empire considerably.
Of course, raising the kids is none of your responsibility, that's mom's job, your job is to deal with the real world; to face the manly elements. Your job is to provided shelter to your innocent daughter, so naive she doesn't even know how to parallel park or read past a fourth grade level. Sorry, just a rant. But it's an interesting thought.
It's a "respectable" excuse to be a bad parent. Interesting idea, that there may have been so many bad parents that society catered toward them to help them cope with their situation by looking at it If you can't love your kids, you can at least get some good use out of them.
Latinachicks Com Mar Punch Explotando El ProbadorWonder how much of that is still around today? Just a thought. If you need more food for thought, read David Copperfield.
Now wasn't he a good firm "respectable" father? Apr 11, We teamed up with Faith Counseling. Can they help you today? Apr 11, 2. Apr 11, 3. I think there have always been people who didn't want kids, but since the only reliable method of avoiding them was avoiding sex, they had kids. I think that's the cause for the phenomena of children throughout the ages wanting to be better parents than they had.
I also think that's why so many parents now are so permissive. If I'm understanding your post right, you're saying there were cultural benefits to having kids, even if you weren't a good parent? Like, farmers would have kids for free labor, even if they treated them poorly? I think that still goes on today. The parents are not clueless, Conn stressed. And people can be raised with strong beliefs about parenting.
Conn thinks pediatricians can ask parents about some of these attitudes when they bring their children in for the many appointments that younger children have for vaccines and checkups. Parents are often open to it, she said. Another mother, named only as Maria, said: Even though this is how you were raised, do you feel this is the right decision you are making? It might be easier to persuade parents to tweak their behavior.
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Apr 11, 1. Way too many people who shouldn't be parents, are parents. Breaking News Emails Get breaking news alerts and special reports. The effect is the same though, bad parents; and way too many of them. Societies worked better at raising kids as a collective whole, so parents got help. It might be easier to persuade parents to tweak their behavior.
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Apr 11, We hope to see you as a part of our community soon and God Bless! Without a son to marry off to that Darby girl how are you going to get a hold of her father's land? I mean, think about it. Do you think since everyone became a parent, that a bad parent wasn't so much a phenomenon? Apr 11, 1. Such a fine daughter could build up a strong alliance between you and the Wellington family, which would further your mini-empire considerably.